Monday, 27 August 2018
pain
Monday, 20 August 2018
water and inequality in cape town
Yes there is a drought, yes we cannot afford to waste water, yes we need to live more consciously and move closer to living in harmony with mother earth, nature and each other. The effects of climate change are here, man-made or natural disasters, its happening and much sooner than predicted.
How we understand and respond to this situation requires thought and compassion living in a city where some households as a norm
- do not have easy access to water, they still have to walk to communal taps and backyard dwellers need to pa, often exploitative rates, for the water they use from 'landlords'
- are on the drip system due to lack of payment of rates, rent, & services (essentially they already have access to limited amount of water per day
- who have taps indoors, swimming pools, huge lush and lavish gardens with irrigation systems.
Tuesday, 15 May 2018
indescribable
in the absence of a meal
any food can taste delicious
being thirsty in the desert
elevates the value of water
and
in the absence of your love
the heart ache is indescribable
Saturday, 10 February 2018
Afrikaaps reflections
Thursday, 28 September 2017
grief, grieving
Saturday, 9 September 2017
dialogue
Tuesday, 29 August 2017
Ain't I a woman - Sojourner Truth
Delivered 1851 at the Women's Convention in Akron, Ohio
Well, children, where there is so much racket there must be something out of kilter. I think that 'twixt the negroes of the South and the women at the North, all talking about rights, the white men will be in a fix pretty soon. But what's all this here talking about?
found this on http://www.feminist.com/resources/artspeech/genwom/sojour.htmThat man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain't I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain't I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man - when I could get it - and bear the lash as well! And ain't I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen most all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother's grief, none but Jesus heard me! And ain't I a woman?Then they talk about this thing in the head; what's this they call it? [member of audience whispers, "intellect"] That's it, honey. What's that got to do with women's rights or negroes' rights? If my cup won't hold but a pint, and yours holds a quart, wouldn't you be mean not to let me have my little half measure full?Then that little man in black there, he says women can't have as much rights as men, 'cause Christ wasn't a woman! Where did your Christ come from? Where did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothing to do with Him.If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these women together ought to be able to turn it back , and get it right side up again! And now they is asking to do it, the men better let them.Obliged to you for hearing me, and now old Sojourner ain't got nothing more to say.
Sunday, 6 August 2017
people are making things happen!
Monday, 17 July 2017
Mid-year reflection Day 1
Some reflective insights:
To save money - I need to change behaviour
Given that I am studying this year, finances have become more important and as I look at how do I reduce my budget, one of the obvious ways is to reduce expenditure. It occurred to me instantly that cutting down on expenses demands behaviour change, like no more buying coffee from the vending machine, managing my resources more carefully and prioritising where I put my time - because time is money. I will have to be doing some focused exercises to support these choices.
I need to value my money
I am reminded again that my money is my reward for my labour, it is my income derived by selling my labour. Let me not squander it, let me value it, however great or small.
Creating balance
Indeed I am a social being as I mapped out my life, I see so much activity that includes people. I have recently learnt through the ancient Indian medicine practice of Ayurveda that I have dual opposing doshas (types) and so I am also very happy being a quiet person and this too is reflected in the ways that I practice self-care. I can see that I am getting better balancing these 2 aspects of my being. In the past I would get lost in the one aspect and then the other. I guess I am getting better at being me - thank goodness, after all I am not getting any younger :)
Gratitudes for this day:
I am grateful for my capacity to forgive
I am grateful for Faroek, who celebrates his birthday today and is a wonderful father to my grandchildren and husband to my daughter, Layla and really has become my son. A beautiful, joyful, smiling, ultra marathon athlete, sporty and talented young man - a great example to other young men.
Tuesday, 28 February 2017
WE WON
In short I was surprised and so I was still processing - again, if you know me....
I was super optimistic that as a united front of alumni, students, staff and black academics we could garner support and at least, win this convocation battle. I never set out to be in this role, I agreed because we needed someone everyone was willing to support. It is my honour to serve in this way. I am truly humbled by the faith people have in me. Being me, I had no victory speech nor did I even consider what I may say should we win. Now I know the value of having a prepared victory speech :) Though I still prefer my way, no expectations.
Then our win became so personal on social media with congratulations to me, and that is so uncool. Asseblief mense, WE won, please, enkosi, siyabulela! The protest space is expanding at UCT and we all need to own it and we all need to own the gains we make! The decolonial road is long and winding it is only through unity that we will get there!
Wednesday, 25 January 2017
And then some more best days in India
In my last blog I said that that day would probably be the best day of this trip. I now know that there is no day that can be called the best. So many wonderful things have happened! I actually got to meet Dadi Janki as she slowly invited all the participants to meet her in small groups. Dadi Janki is 101 years old and a Yogi who is clear of mind and thought, humourous, arms are still strong, though the legs struggle I was fascinated to note that she does not have much wrinkles on her arms and feet as can be seen on so many people when they are in their seventies.
Tuesday, 4 October 2016
A day of highs!
Dadi Janki is 101 years old, she is one of the two Yogis who lead the Brahma Kumaris - a woman-led organisation. She gave us a class in the morning and the night before had led us in meditation. Dadi walked into the hall and one could clearly feel the energetic vibration increase, noting that there were already over 200 of us present! One cannot help but have great respect for this remarkable soul who is an example of the power of honouring one's spiritual being in this physical world.
The ancient Jain Temples are in the middle of Mount Abu town's hustle and bustle and still has daily worshipers, as it contains altars to many deities. Exquisitely and intricately carved marble is all over, the ceilings and pillars and walls - unfortunately no cameras are allowed inside. Built from the 11th to the 13th century it is breathtaking and I cannot imagine what was used to achieve such beauty and accuracy. The temples are monumental works of art, the energy in the place is just wow! Tourists are permitted in the afternoon and so it was a much quicker visit than I hoped with all the people flowing through the temples.
Our day ended with a Sound Spa, with Brother David who played many instruments for us - wooden flute, didgeridoo, various indigenous instruments from different parts of the world and singing bowls. Oh the singing bowls - i could feel my body vibrating and wanting to fly away. What a fantastic way to end our day. I will be checking if I can take a cd home.
Monday, 3 October 2016
Gyan Sarovar
Wednesday, 28 September 2016
Getting from Cape Town to India
It was easy enough to decide to leave the city of Cape Town to take a journey that I have dreamed for a few years now.
When the invitation came to attend the Peace of Mind Retreat in Mount Abu - where the Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University head quarters are, I did not hesitate to accept it. This was the 3rd opportunity I had to go to India. In this case, the 2nd invitation to the Peace of Mind Retreat. I did not want to pass it up.
The last time I had to pull out due to lack of funds. This time the money came the same week I received the invite. It was also the same week we got our kitten, Flower and the same week I was knocked out by the flu or something for 8 days. This germ continued to boomerang 3 or 4 times since.
So preparing for this trip was not as easy as saying YES to it. I could afford the trip because I have had quite a few projects to work on. The workload was a challenge to manage with the recurring illness. Today I sat in the plane to Johannesburg thinking it's a miracle I managed to organise myself to make this happen. The time within which to get everything together was short and I did it all in small chunks. Window shopping for luggage bags, then later going to buy it.
Carving out an hour of my day to book flights or do another errand. Somehow I pulled it all off.
The real achievement here is that I was able to put my own self care needs above work demands. This trip is about taking care of my spiritual needs. This is a real growth point, especially since i did this with a full workload.
It was still a challenge to stop working to let go of projects that are underway and to trust that they will be okay and still be there when I get back.
So saying yes was easy. Making it happen was challenging and I persevered. Now, it is happening. I was not always this woman, today I am thankful I am woman who can make her dreams come true.
Peace
Tuesday, 9 August 2016
Let's create the world our children deserve
In the afternoon I found myself listening to #DivasUnitedSA. We were enthralled by an all female Cape Town Philharmonic Orchestra and women with the most wonderful singing voices including Thembeka Mnguni who was hands down the hot favourite of the crowd! There were Young Divas who wowed the crowd. Then the winner of Young Divas 2016, Dirja Lekas sang a solo - Believe by Cher, It was so heartfelt, this 12 year old girl with an amazing voice brought me to tears.
I cried, because those young women who lost their lives too had hope in their hearts, promise and potential and are now gone. I cried because I cannot be sure that this young girl with the voice of an angel will grow to be a successful women singer, that she will not be violated by this world. I cried because I was reminded that us adults, the mature of our society need to do better, need to pack away our egos and create the world our children deserve!
Are you with me?
Wednesday, 15 June 2016
Orlando Shooting
Most of the people at the club & most of the dead are people of colour, most identified as LGBTIQ. Killed due to the homophobia of the gunman, Omar Mateen who himself frequented the club.
I cannot help but notice how this great tragedy is not seen as a tragedy by many. Yet, when 12 people were killed in France starting with staff of the Charlie Hebdo magazine in January 2015, the world seemed to pause. Media covered the story from endless angles, including all the outpourings of support, marches etc. So many people argued that anyone who did not say I am Charlie or Je suis Charlie (french) were being insensitive and uncaring. Profile pics were changed, french flags were virtually-flown. A public display of solidarity and or compassion became the most important action to be taken. So much passion, all in the name of compassion and caring.
Now, I am wondering did all the Charlie's loose their compassion and caring? Is that even possible? If this includes you, Please Do Try To Care.
Homophobia killed the 50 and homophobia prevents feelings of compassion and care. Try to look beyond your fears, see the people whose lives have been lost, the pain and agony their families are feeling.
I have many friends who are LGBTIQ. I cannot begin to speak on their behalf, but my heart knows that I need to speak, through listening to their stories I have some awareness of the hurt and rejection people suffer sometimes a whole lifetime. Some having to live completely rejected by family, others slowly gaining acceptance in families and often even then not being able to reveal themselves fully to their families. We have communities where it is acceptable to sexually assault black lesbians. All of this happens because homophobia is not challenged because the lives of LGBTIQ persons are not fully valued.
Stop the violence of making people invisible and into what is comfortable for you. Please pay attention to the Orlando 50, pay attention to people around you, in your family and community that are LGBTIQ - look at them, see them for who they are and accept them unconditionally. Love unconditionally, that is our true nature.
LGBTIQ - Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transexual/Intersex/Queer.
Thursday, 19 May 2016
let's tell our daughters that we love them and keep them safe
The message is that women have particular functions and roles in society and these do not include the pursuit of excellence in arts, industry, community leadership or intellect. Boys can go to school, boys can go out in the world and make their mark, boys can sow wild oats. Women are often undervalued as unpaid caregivers and for the purposes of sexual reproduction and as prey for sexual predators. In the process of this devaluing of girls and women, the voices of girls and women are silenced.
In more recent years, some of us have been able to escape this path although, we often find ourselves proceeding against the odds and when we excel, we may be damned for it. Remember when our beloved sister Caster Semenya performed so well, some saw fit to declare that she is not a woman, the arrogance of that situation deserves 1000 blogs.
One of the most significant implications of the gendered nature of society is that it gives men, even the hard labourer man, some economic independence and many women economic dependence. Our girls and young women witness and live this experience of patriarchy. They see that mothers stay with abusive husbands or partners because they do not have any money of their own. They see mothers who look the other way when their boyfriends are sleeping with their daughters because they "take care of us". Our young women, when found busy with sugar daddies are strongly criticised, ostracised and made to feel small yet we fail to understand what has led them to see this as an option to economic independence. They see their future reflected in the lives of their mothers and wonder is that my future too? They are trying to avoid that future and sadly, they are repeating the cycle.
Daily little girls, young women, mature women are being raped, trafficked, sexually exploited and murdered in our country and as a society we continue to uphold the values of a patriarchal society. We support institutions that continue to uphold the colonialist notions that some people are superior to others, and consider that white, male, heterosexual, european standard as supreme and right. So as I find myself being neither white, nor male, nor european, I guess I am wrong and less important on 3 strikes? Of course not, yet the world is telling us this. Our higher education institutions hardly reflect the rightness of all humanity whether black/pink/green, female/queer/homo/trans/a/sexual, african/indigenous. Our higher education institutions continue to reinforce the gendered nature of society as it produces the captains of industry, advisers to political leaders and knowledgeable elite who do very little to change the lived experience of women and so continue to perpetuate a problem, whereas one expects higher education to be about finding solutions to the challenges faced by society.
We need to ask what it is that we do to contribute to the idea that girls and women do matter?
Let's start to raise our sons and daughters differently, let's check white privilege when it raises it's head, let's invite queer-homo-hetero-trans-sexuality into our homes and embrace it all, let's accept our child, sister, brother for who they are. Let's shine our Africanness, let's share the carework and let's tell and show our daughters that we love them and keep them safe! Then we will start to change the world!
Tuesday, 2 February 2016
Kuruman reflections
It was evidenced by many people pushing trolleys up and down the street. Trolleys filled with large bags of sugar, maize, flour, cooking oil and rice. Some peoples trolleys included some more items than that. I was struck by the thought that this food possibly consumed all the money that people have and would not last a month; after all R330 is paid for one child. This is very little and children have other needs. A friend from this area told me that some of the young mothers waste this money on card gambling games on the streets, drinking and buying themselves nice things.
This situation is not very different from one part of the country to the next. I wonder what will become of our future as a nation when we have so many people reliant on social grants, an ever increasing unemployment rate and limited development opportunities. We are more preoccupied by media circus events, than by the need to alleviate poverty in our country.
It is these moments that return me to clarity of purpose, to recommit myself to the work of helping people to reconnect with themselves and rediscover their power and beauty.
Thursday, 22 October 2015
This is not what we fought for!
Wednesday, 26 August 2015
Do no harm
These 3 simple words have guided me in many things. I am a vegetarian as a result of the harm being done to animals and I let this principle inform my actions daily and endeavour to help instead.
A key value for how HOUSTON INITIATIVES does business: do no harm